Isn't that the way life is with kids, though? For me, I feel like motherhood has been one big lesson in how to cope and patiently navigate through things not necessarily going as planned, how to have more realistic expectations while letting go of that desire for the appearance of perfection, and learning to make the best of less than ideal situations.
Would I have learned those lessons minus the kiddoes? Sure, probably...because there is little in life that can be controlled. But, I do think my kids have put me on a crash course learning route that provides daily material for me to continually work with. Let's just use today so far as an example....
- Olivia wakes up at 4:30 a.m. So not cool. But, she is undeniably cute in her new pj's with monkeys on the feet.
- Zach wakes up and decides to dress himself in solid orange clothing from head to toe. Apparently we need to work on coordinating colors.
- Zach hauls off and smacks Allie for bossing him around. Zach screams that he does not want a time out. Zach gets a time out.
- Allie complains that Zach is hogging Olivia...apparently he always hogs Olivia. Allie grumps off to pout in her room.
- Olivia refuses to take a morning nap. I do my workout video in the living room while she jabbers away in her crib.
- Allie spills an entire can of baking soda while we are making blueberry muffins.
- The blueberry muffins, while they smell divine, taste like crud.
So, this past weekend, the day before the kids and I were supposed to leave with my mom to go and visit my sister in Wisconsin and take a trip to the Milwaukee County Zoo, I had definitely not planned for Olivia to come down with a 103-degree fever that would most definitely not go away in time for me to feel ok about packing her up for a six-hour road trip. I was bummed.
Monday, Zach and Allie left with my mom while Olivia and I stayed at home...not according to my original plan at all. After a visit to the doctor to find out it was just something viral (surprise, surprise), we came home where Olivia proceeded to take the longest nap EVER. I was definitely not planning on that either, but do you know how much you can get done during a 4.5 hour nap?! It is truly amazing. I exercised, reorganized my entire kitchen, made Goodwill piles, made trash piles, and even began on organizing the basement.
On Tuesday, Olivia was still not doing all that great, and proceeded to take two more extremely long naps which enabled me to continue my Goodwill and trash piles, organize the basement, organize the kids' rooms, you name it, I organized it. I've been so busy with the kids and life that I didn't even realize how much we needed a major overhaul of our stuff.
By Wednesday, Olivia was so much improved that I was even able to run errands before the kids returned home. Running errands with one kid is sooo much easier and quicker than with three!
I love my kiddoes, but I think God knew I needed a little break to get our house (and possibly my mind) back in order. The peace and quiet not only did wonders for Olivia getting the rest she needed to feel better (seriously, she has never, EVER napped that long in her entire life), but helped me to feel a little more rejuvinated myself. And, now that the kids are home, I realize that maybe, just maybe, things not going according to plan was possibly the best thing for my sanity.